No matter what age you are or level of dating experience, reading men’s interest in you can be a struggle. Many men prefer to remain a mystery, opting for privacy in all areas of their lives until they are ready to make a major commitment. For the ladies, catching on to their subtle (and not-so-subtle) cues can be the only way to get their message and avoid unnecessary heartbreak. So to stop the ladies from wondering if a guy is on the fence, but still not quite sure if to walk away, here are some signs to help as you prepare for a Christmas holiday and even the new year.
He doesn’t take forever to text you: obviously, no matter how a man is busy, he’ll always make sure to communicate with you. This technological era, makes it the more easier as we have different ways of sending and receiving messages. No excuse baby!
He tries often to come to your house: I too wonder what kind of a man doesn’t even bother to know where his lady stays. I mean someone who wouldn’t even drive you home or accompany you to a point, or even get to ask about your location, etc, cannot be said to give much in the long term.
He doesn’t maintain a physical or emotional distance: Oh yea! On physical and emotional levels, a guy who will not share his personal details, plans, etc doesn’t want to go too deep. That a fine fling, but not worth making an emotional investment on your part.
He doesn’t avoid touching you in public: if your guy friend loves to embrace, kiss and cuddle in the privacy of your home, but won’t even hold your hand on the street, this is a major warning sign.
He would want to respect your ideas: Oh yes! For a guy can disagree with your way of seeing the world and still care. If all he does is disrespectfully disregard your perspective when communicating, he likely doesn’t think much of you. Next!
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He hopes to see you even if he is not horny: You’re not a sex toy baby, so don’t expect the relationship to go anywhere if he only gets to see you when he is horny.
He would let you leave things at his house sometimes or even anytime: it is quite difficult for a lady not to forget her pants, ear rings, slippers, essentials, etc in her guy’s room. Though some might do this for an ulterior motive, it is common to also see ladies who are in love do this most often. A guy who is very much into you, will be happy to let you stow essentials in his place. Take note!
He attends major events with you: Think of his parent’s anniversary, a friend’s party, a birthday celebration, an award night, etc. These are places your guy should and will take you. If he never wants you around at a time that’s meaningful to him, then you don’t mean that much. Case closed!
He doesn’t refuse to make future plans with you – short or long term: He will so squeeze you into the corners of his life, not refuse to plan weekends away and he will schedule open weeks in advance.
He doesn’t flake out on your plans at the last minute: There’s nothing like last-minute planning with you dear.
He is not already involved with someone else, so you too don’t need to be called side-chick.
He seems to be interested in intimacy: Because if your sex life with dude is little to nothing, and you rarely even have orgasms, he is basically saying that he can do without you. Frustrating and cruel right?
He doesn’t pull a disappearing act – the kind that’ll make you don’t see your man for weeks, days or months at a time without explanation.
He doesn’t insist he is a commitment phobic: You deserve a man who not only wants to spend quality time with you, but also is happy doing it.
So ladies, if your significant other doesn’t exhibit many of these behaviours, take the hint and resist investing another minute. You deserve the best in life. Keep striving until you find the love you deserve. Either way, do have a wonderful celebration. Don’t forget to share this and tell us how you feel in the comments section. Cheers!
These tips were inspired by Konye Chelsea Nwabogor of “ThisDay Style.”
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